My fiancé just wrote a great article about coding, responsibility, and how software development is mostly about managing egos of everyone involved. This made me think about my own relationship with responsibility, which has been so far quite complicated and confusing. I’m a highly sensitive person and an emotional sponge. Noticing other people’s emotions and […]
What have I done To deserve these . Long winding roads Embraced gently by a Soft cloth of green . Ancient cathedrals Of rock wood and dirt Rising tall and wise Far above imagination . Sweet baby goat Who would let me hug her For a grain of corn . All these ridiculous Lush fairy […]
I used to have an irrational fear of saying “no”. I felt responsible for everyone’s feelings, and for making sure no one is upset. Any situation where I had to confront someone and tell them something is not possible, or that I’m not going to help them, would cause me dread and anxiety. Working in […]
Don’t expect much from a drowning man. He’s not going to offer you a candy bar or ask how your day was. He’s too busy not drowning. Seth Godin I come back to this post by Seth Godin at least once a week. It’s super short and takes less than a minute to read. Whenever […]
What’s the first thing you do when someone is sad or upset? My natural instinct was always to say sorry. Even if wasn’t the least responsible for the problem, I used to think saying sorry will express empathy and show people that I am on their side. One of the first things I learned working […]
I fix WordPress sites for a living. This is obviously not the case for people who reach out to me for help. In theory, I’m well aware that our customers don’t dedicate as much of their time and energy to troubleshooting their websites as I do, and that a new WooCommerce version coming out is […]
“You must go to a lot of festivals, don’t you?” I got asked today again. Now that I work from a coworking office, this happens all the time. Because of my flashy multicolored clothes everyone thinks I’m a crazy old hippie who only likes to party. Now a part of me is indeed a crazy […]
If you see someone go through a hard time, don’t feel sorry for them. It deprives them of agency. If you say you’re sorry, you’re saying they’re unable to deal with what is happening. People are much wiser and stronger than we think. They have the power to use whatever challenge they’re facing as a […]
Today was one of these days. I slept poorly a few nights in a row, woke up with a headache, then a super tough chat set the tone for the rest of the day. As much as I tried to concentrate, I couldn’t. I was emotionally bankrupt before 11am, and even the easiest things seemed […]
Whenever I feel confused and overwhelmed, I like to keep things in perspective. And the truth is, this is the best confused and overwhelmed state than I have ever been in. Staying present and sorta-self-compassionate in the middle of an emotional turmoil is the single most healthy response I ever managed to achieve.
It’s been worse. Much worse.