Don’t expect me to share your passion

“So you’re telling me you don’t apply a hair mask even just once per week? Are you too busy to do this or simply too lazy?”

A few months ago I wrote that this is what hairdressers always say to me. Just as I expected, it happened again. It’s funny how for the person who said it, the only reason why I might not use a hair mask would be too little time or laziness. Girl, even if I had two extra hours of free time per day, I’d probably still skip the weekly hair mask, and spend that time on things that excite me much more, like painting, writing, or sitting on a tree.

A few years ago I would judge her as superficial. Now I understand that people are different and care about different things. It’s not superficial at all that a hairdresser is passionate about haircare routines. It is fantastic in fact! The world would be a much better place if everyone could work on something they’re excited and passionate about.

Having discovered that fashion too is a form of art, I’ve completely changed my attitude towards people who work in the fashion, makeup, or even plastic surgery business. Fashion doesn’t directly contribute to saving the world, but it does contribute to increasing its beauty. If you can admire a painting just for its aesthetic qualities, why not admire a beautiful dress in the same way? What you do doesn’t matter as much as how you do it, and in a perfect world everyone would have a job they can commit to no less than wholeheartedly.

But there’s a trap in this. It’s fine and beautiful to be serious about something, but you can’t expect everyone else to care about it as much as you do. When I first discovered bra-fitting, I was so obsessed that I literally tried to convince everyone to it, whether they wanted it or not. Unsurprisingly, the only result I got were people running away whenever I started talking about bras. Now I’m kinda bored with talking about them myself.

You can, and should, be passionate about something, whether it’s makeup, fishing, or lifting weights. It’s delightful, fantastic, it’s one of the few things that make a life worth living.

But you can’t reasonably expect me to share your obsession, whatever it is. And the worst things you can do is trying to guilt-trip me for not sharing it. Especially if I am your customer, paying a lot for your expertise in that particular field. If I was so obsessed about haircare as you are, I’d happily cut and dye that hair myself.

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