I learned so many incredible things during Apotheosis, that I’ll keep unpacking them for a few more days at least. Yesterday I wrote about how feeling sorry for people deprives them of agency. My next favorite one is that an emotion–a physical sensation in the body–lasts normally for just 15-30 seconds. I can already see […]
If you see someone go through a hard time, don’t feel sorry for them. It deprives them of agency. If you say you’re sorry, you’re saying they’re unable to deal with what is happening. People are much wiser and stronger than we think. They have the power to use whatever challenge they’re facing as a […]
When you say you deeply care about something, what does it mean actually? Do you care about what you think is the best way to solve the problem? Or do you care about the question that brought you to that belief? The difference is subtle, but of great consequences. If you care about the question, […]
I had the weirdest experience a few weeks ago. I was listening to a smart, accomplished person talk about his latest projects when a wild thought ran across my mind. “Wow, this is so incredible! Why can’t I be like this guy?”. I tried to ignore the thought and come back to the conversation. However, […]
Sometimes I am my own worst enemy. Where other people see great work being done, I only see a few flaws that ruin the whole thing in my eyes. Where my team lead sees solid performance, I only see hours of procrastination. Where my friends and family see steady progress, I only see a haunting […]
Quality life starts with quality questions. No matter how tough it is, I still get to choose what questions I ask myself, what I focus on, in what direction I push my internal chatter. There are questions that always lead to nowhere.Why can’t I normally get out of bed in the morning like every sane […]
Whenever I feel confused and overwhelmed, I like to keep things in perspective. And the truth is, this is the best confused and overwhelmed state than I have ever been in. Staying present and sorta-self-compassionate in the middle of an emotional turmoil is the single most healthy response I ever managed to achieve.
It’s been worse. Much worse.
When I say I want to write a new article for my favorite kids’ magazine, is it the writing that I actually want? Or the warm pride and satisfaction that comes at the end of it? If it’s the former, why do I spend so much time procrastinating, scrolling Twitter, reading a twentieth random article, […]
I am very often my own worst critic. No matter how much I accomplish, one silly mistake can ruin it all in my eyes. No matter how many challenges I overcome, it doesn’t really matter if I haven’t done it all. Either I cross a couple things off my todo list, and then feel guilty […]
There are so many things I haven’t done because of fear, doubt, and procrastination.
I thought I wasn’t ready yet. I thought that if I learn just one more thing, practice just one more repetition, read just one more book, I would know exactly what I needed to do.
I thought every new skill would be like a school subject, where I can learn the entire material and get an A+. I used to be the kid who always got straight A+ and would become very upset if I did not. I thought that the only thing between me and doing the things I wanted correctly at the first try was the right amount of study.