Who are you, if you don’t count work?

This question may sound strange, until you think about how you normally introduce yourself. I bet one of the first things you’ll say when meeting a new person will be about your job and occupation. For better or worse, what you do for a living is a significant part of everyone’s identity. But if you […]

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Control is overrated

I recently wrote about the vicious cycle of dieting, binge eating, and yoyo, that had its grip on me ever since I remember. I only managed to escape it when instead of trying to control what I eat, I started listening to my body and watching it react to different kinds of food. If you […]

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Going critical, going remote

I just finished a video chat with about dozen people from all around the world. I’ve never spoken to any of them before. There was no company or organization behind this meeting, no business incentive for people to join, and no formal goal to be achieved. The group spontaneously assembled around The I.I. Manifesto and […]

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How to tell responsibility from people pleasing

My fiancé just wrote a great article about coding, responsibility, and how software development is mostly about managing egos of everyone involved. This made me think about my own relationship with responsibility, which has been so far quite complicated and confusing. I’m a highly sensitive person and an emotional sponge. Noticing other people’s emotions and […]

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To communicate is to meet people where they are

I fix WordPress sites for a living. This is obviously not the case for people who reach out to me for help. In theory, I’m well aware that our customers don’t dedicate as much of their time and energy to troubleshooting their websites as I do, and that a new WooCommerce version coming out is […]

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Embracing fluidity

We can’t afford to have anyone limited by a job description. Like, when we started, I didn’t know how to negotiate an office lease, but it had to be done, so I read some stuff and then just plunged in. Realistically, nobody can do everything. When being a regional comptroller, you need to know the […]

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Busy is a choice

When I lived in Korea, it shocked me how everyone perceived ‘busy‘ as a badge of honor. It meant you’re a productive member of your group and people can rely on your sacrifice. It meant you’re working hard and should be praised for it. I remember how I told my colleague once that everyone was […]

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